We all have our own interests and styles, as well as enjoying play for different reasons; one way is not necessarily preferable to another in the grand scheme of things.

I take pleasure in sessioning from the exchange of energy, setting and overcoming challenges in a scene with someone I like, and building relationships over time. My goal is a having a real connection during play, in addition to, but not only, participating in a particular physical activity; it is about the experience, not the outcome. Perhaps that is a small niche, but it is where I am happy.

On a few occasions, new play partners have been flummoxed when I have not demanded or requested a self-pleasuring activity be performed upon him or herself at the end of the scene. --Sometimes I do, if it seems appropriate for the scene, but often I prefer it before arrival, request it happen at a later time and a report be sent back, or it may never even come up at all (pun intended).-- These persons are more outcome focused (another pun) and have The Special Ending as the entire goal of play.

I am curious as to how each of you perceive play. Is that Particular Finish a make-or-break for you regarding a session? Do you have other goals or necessary outcomes for a scene?

-Regan