scottie
Pervy
Reged: May 16 2007
Posts: 71
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It's not a make or break thing for me but my experience (substantial) is that it usually happens. I do enjoy it greatly when it does. Actually I've been somewhat surprised the last few years (I've been in the game for a lot of years), when the Domme seems more interested in it than I am and just won't give up until the dance is done. I have to admit that makes me feel all good inside (and a couple of other places).
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Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic
Arthur C. Clarke
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pagankinktress
Cool New Kid
Reged: Jun 01 2008
Posts: 37
Loc: Seeping into your brain one mo...
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I think oftentimes it has to do with whether or not the participants in a D/s exchange are looking at it as a way to express or enhance a sexual experience or are wanting to engage in a power exchange for the sake of exchanging power. I'll admit that sometimes I'm a "weekend" kinktress; in that it has more to do with playing and pleasure than indulging in a more serious exchange. For me, it depends on my mood, though when it comes to my Pet, I do enjoy the sexual element we both get out of our playtime. Still, there's a lot to be said for bringing a little BDSM into one's every day experiences. There are also times when I want my Pet to go deeper, and I strive to make it more than just about a sexual game or kinky way to get off. It really depends on the participants expectations and what it is they are desiring to explore.
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lowfi_loser
Big Pervert
Reged: Jun 27 2007
Posts: 448
Loc: Not quite spitting distance of...
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Hi Regan -
Taking things into my own hands pre-session does seem to help with the focus.
Abstention for a marked period I imagine would be pretty intense, as the challenges brought on by focus vs. arousal would be frustrating for the sub and amusing for the Domme.
I guess that's a part of the power exchange that goes somewhat unsaid; turning over one's desires to another and letting her control them.
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Why yes, she is all that and a side of fried pickle chips!
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fermat
Hot New Meat
Reged: Aug 27 2007
Posts: 21
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Thank you Regan. You're point is well taken.
I should have clarified; evolution is funny-unpredictable while intelligent design is funny-haha.
Which leads me to another thought. I know how words with multiple meanings occasionally lead to misunderstandings - sometimes intentionally, but did it ever occur to anyone else how inadequate English is to express a true BDSM experience or relationship? I constantly finding myself substituting the closest real word I can think of to describe feelings and perceptions that really should have their own vocabulary. However I frequently find myself not communicating very clearly. I wonder who I should talk to to get the English language broadened?
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Regan
Smarty Pants Pervert
Reged: May 16 2007
Posts: 1042
Loc: NYC
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Hi, needtoserve-
You are hardly a shallow person!
How would you say this desire for dancing meshes with or enriches the chastity you are exploring with Mistress Katya?
-Regan
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