Regan
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Reged: May 16 2007
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Loc: NYC
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1) Urban Dictionary is fantabulous... and not just because I need it to understand many people. Just don't submit any of my words until the Regan Dictionary has its first draft completed!
2) Nocturnal submissions? Wonderful play on words. A gold star for lowfi!
-Regan
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Regan
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Reged: May 16 2007
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Loc: NYC
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Hi, scottie-
I hadn't thought about it in terms of location. It does make sense, though, if one were to compare the US and Germany, from what I have read. In Germany, there are more definite categories: dominas and bizaarladies, and a client knows what he or she is to expect . The US just has 'mistresses,' which is pretty vague, to the point of overlapping with prostitution in some people's interpretation.
In my somewhat more limited experience, it is the type of scene request which *generally* dictates the expectation of the ending; a fetishist or straight masochist# tends to need a completion activity, as opposed to an energy exchange playmate who is more into the process than the outcome.
-Regan
#as well as the dreaded 'uh, you know, a sennnnsuuuuaaaallll session. No this, no that, no these, no those, no pain, no bondage, no nothing, oh, and will you go topless for an extra ten bucks' who safewords if I even look at him the wrong way. Mr Happy Dancing is the be all and end all!
*chuckle* I seldom deal with these anymore, although will try one on a rare occasion. I love a challenge!
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scottie
Pervy
Reged: May 16 2007
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You're right about the distinction in Germany and I have only seen classical Dommes there, but I have also sessioned in England, Belgium and Holland, and I include those countries in my experience. Those last three are the same as the U.S. and don't have the German distinctions. BTW - don't you just love the way the Germans engineer everything for efficiency, even down to happy dancing!
Since I am a "classical" masochist, it's good to hear I'm normal for that group. Lords knows I wouldn't want to be considered abnormal or anything like that. LOL
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scottie
Pervy
Reged: May 16 2007
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I know this was directed to Lowfi, but I'll answer from a slightly different perspective.
A couple of times Mr. Happy danced right at the start of the session at the direction of the Domme. It gave the following scene a whole new feeling. The whole focus was on the physical aspects of the scene, with none of the distractions of sexual tension. Overall I wouldn't want to do that as a general practice, but it was an interesting dynamic that developed. I expected my pain threshold to be diminished, but that didn't happen. It felt more like an old fashioned beat-down. That certainly satisfied my masochistic desires.
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lowfi_loser
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Reged: Jun 27 2007
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Jeepers Regan -
Can't you ask some deep questions like who's better to invite to a dinner party - Data or Mr. Spock?
Let's see...
When there is pre-session knob polishing, I tend to come in more focused on trying to please, even though my pain tolerances are usually more sensitive or heightened.
I tend to be a little slower heading into subspace, but usually get there in good order. Chalk it up to the dominant being someone that can read people, myself included, very well.
When entering the session without rubbing the root prior, I am certainly more pliable in terms of the intended, or unintended, t&d leading me to deeper predicaments.
e.g. - I don't know if I would want to try sounds after having relieved myself shortly before session. (Slightly o/t - From some things I've read through posts on a few boards, there is a physical aspect that helps recovery by releasing post-sounds.)
Maybe (and I'm just tangentalizing on my own viewpoint here) there are 3 parts to the attraction of sessioning - Physical, emotional and mental/intellectual.
I used to let the physical segment be the motivating factor. (i.e. - Wow, she's physically stunning, and here's a loose laundry list of session activities.) That often left me wanting more, and leaving some sessions pretty unfulfilled.
Then there is the mental aspect. Finding someone that could tap into what makes a session tick, and having the skills to make that seem essentially seamless was definitely a goal when I returned to sessioning. Having experienced that first hand, I am deeply appreciative that a lot of effort goes into making a session run effortlessly. It humbles me in the best sense.
What I didn't factor in, for me, was what happens when the other two portions are in good order/balance. Then the emotional section kicks in. I'm off into subspace, and being in the moment is what's there. I roll with it, like the best sections of music, or climbing or scuba diving. With any of those, one can only play as deep as the skill level allows. When playing with skilled folks it can be awe inspiring and take the sub or less experienced person into deeper levels and greater heights.
I'd be lying if I didn't admit that there is an eroticism to it. It can be considered 'dark' 'out of the norm' or even 'weird' by vanilla folks. For me, it's about admitting, then accepting, and then enjoying that certain things are arousing that are not 'vanilla.' The release being done pre-session, or if ever graciously allowed in session just shifts the focus and balance.
Apologies to head off to planet tangetium, but I hope I answered some of the question without sounding whackier than intended...
j.
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