All Star Doms: Does Mr Happy Need to Dance?

Jeepers Regan -

Can't you ask some deep questions like who's better to invite to a dinner party - Data or Mr. Spock?

Let's see...

When there is pre-session knob polishing, I tend to come in more focused on trying to please, even though my pain tolerances are usually more sensitive or heightened.

I tend to be a little slower heading into subspace, but usually get there in good order. Chalk it up to the dominant being someone that can read people, myself included, very well.

When entering the session without rubbing the root prior, I am certainly more pliable in terms of the intended, or unintended, t&d leading me to deeper predicaments.

e.g. - I don't know if I would want to try sounds after having relieved myself shortly before session. (Slightly o/t - From some things I've read through posts on a few boards, there is a physical aspect that helps recovery by releasing post-sounds.)

Maybe (and I'm just tangentalizing on my own viewpoint here) there are 3 parts to the attraction of sessioning - Physical, emotional and mental/intellectual.

I used to let the physical segment be the motivating factor. (i.e. - Wow, she's physically stunning, and here's a loose laundry list of session activities.) That often left me wanting more, and leaving some sessions pretty unfulfilled.

Then there is the mental aspect. Finding someone that could tap into what makes a session tick, and having the skills to make that seem essentially seamless was definitely a goal when I returned to sessioning. Having experienced that first hand, I am deeply appreciative that a lot of effort goes into making a session run effortlessly. It humbles me in the best sense.

What I didn't factor in, for me, was what happens when the other two portions are in good order/balance. Then the emotional section kicks in. I'm off into subspace, and being in the moment is what's there. I roll with it, like the best sections of music, or climbing or scuba diving. With any of those, one can only play as deep as the skill level allows. When playing with skilled folks it can be awe inspiring and take the sub or less experienced person into deeper levels and greater heights.

I'd be lying if I didn't admit that there is an eroticism to it. It can be considered 'dark' 'out of the norm' or even 'weird' by vanilla folks. For me, it's about admitting, then accepting, and then enjoying that certain things are arousing that are not 'vanilla.' The release being done pre-session, or if ever graciously allowed in session just shifts the focus and balance.

Apologies to head off to planet tangetium, but I hope I answered some of the question without sounding whackier than intended...

j.

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